Last week I came across 2 very interesting articles that gave me great pause. Jackson Katz asked men “What steps do you take, on a daily basis, to prevent yourselves from being sexually assaulted?” He reports that there is usually an awkward silence which is followed by someone making a joke and then someone says “nothing. I don’t think about it.” When the same question is asked of women there are many responses– holding my keys like a potential weapon; looking in the back seat of the car before getting in; be careful not to drink too much or leave my drink unattended; carrying mace or pepper spray, and many many more examples. Read the full list here. This took my breath away because I recognize that I do so many of these things as a matter of fact and I had not stopped to think that men don’t have to do this. The other article was from Washington Post columnist Monica Hesse called “Dear dads: Your daughters told me about their assaults. This is why they never told you.” Read it here. Talk about eye opening and gut wrenching.
How many of us are holding on to secrets because we don’t want to cause pain to the men in our lives?? Because we are afraid of what their reaction might be??